Merissa and Augie have been going out for four years. They met while taking the same French history class at a relatively small, country, liberal arts college located in the far Western part of the United States. While they were basically good friends at first, they at long last started dating when they were in their first year of college.

Given the fact that both of them came from very traditional backgrounds, neither one of them drank very much beyond the experimental stage when they first began dating. As the time passed by, however, they began to go to more sorority and fraternity parties, keg parties, football bashes, and happy hours. As a consequence, they progressively began to drink more the more they dated.

Their Social Life Usually Consisted of Going to Parties With Their Friends, Going to Restaurants Three or Four Nights Per Week, Going to Professional Sporting Events, Going to Happy Hour With Their Friends, and Going With Their Friends to the Local Saloon on the Weekends

After they graduated, they both found employment in a relatively small city that was around eighty-five miles from their undergraduate college. Then they eventually made up their mind to move in with each other.

Due to the fact they were far removed from the college drinking scene, nonetheless, their social life typically consisted of going to happy hour with their friends, going to professional sporting events, going to restaurants three or four nights per week, going to parties with their friends, and going to the local nightclub with their pals on the weekends. In short, Merissa and Augie began drinking in an excessive and abusive manner.

Now that they were living with each other and starting to get more serious about their relationship, nonetheless, they began to think about becoming more responsible, having children, getting married, and buying a house.

With any momentous modification in a person’s life there is generally a trigger the specific adjustment in question. For Augie and Merissa the thought of having children and buying a new house was this “vehicle for change.” In short, for the first time in their lives, Merissa and Augie started to critically assess their abusive and excessive drinking and the long term effects of alcohol on their health.

How Would Their Irresponsible and Excessive Drinking Affect Their Relationship With Their Parents, Their Finances, Their Relationship With One Another, Their Ability to Have Children, and Their Mental Health?

Would their drinking behavior negatively affect their ability to have children? How would they be able to continue spending a large percentage of their money on drinking if they were to start saving for a new house? How adult-like would they be if they had children and continued to drink in an irresponsible and excessive manner? How would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long term hopes, dreams, and aspirations while they still drank in an irresponsible manner while having fun as they did when they were in college? What would their excessive and hazardous drinking do to their relationship? How would their hazardous and abusive drinking affect their mental health?

From a different viewpoint, although neither one of them ever suffered from alcohol poisoning, received a DUI, or experienced alcohol withdrawals, they realized that their hazardous drinking was becoming a thorny issue that they could not overlook any longer.

After Giving Their Situation Much Deliberation, Augie and Merissa Finally Realized That Their Dreams, Hopes, and Aspirations Would not be Completed if They Continued Their Hazardous and Abusive Drinking

All of these questions without a doubt indicated the same conclusion: Merissa and Augie needed to grasp the fact that they couldn’t continue their hazardous and excessive drinking if their dreams, hopes, and plans were to be brought to fruition.

Once they got to this conclusion, they told their drinking buddies about their marital plans, about their goal of buying or building a new house, and about their plans to start a family. They also told their drinking buddies that they still wanted to associate with them but that they would be drinking in strict moderation from this moment forward so that they could start realizing their future dreams, hopes, and aspirations.

Much to their surprise, all of their pals expressed relief because they too had been reassessing their lives and concluded that their life-styles were too centered around drinking. They also thought that they would have to change notably if they were to become more mature and show more thoughtfulness for their careers, their health, and for their aspirations in the next ten or fifteen years.

After their frank discussion with their pals about their aspirations, hopes, and dreams, Augie and Merissa in essence started to have more meaningful relationships with all of their buddies. The key reason for this was the fact that all of them had the same attitude regarding their heavy and excessive drinking and their relatively short and long-term goals, plans, and aspirations.

 

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